When your parenting style differs from that of your partner, it can be frustrating (at best) and destructive (at worst), creating distance between partners and confusion for the children. At the same time, it’s extremely common because the qualities that lead you to fall in love with each other as people don’t always lead you to "fall in love" with each other as parents.
Many couples have difficulty co-leading with their partner in the home. The reality is your true personal beliefs about parenting lie dormant until there’s an actual child to parent. So, everything from managing daily routines, to giving appropriate consequences, to handling sibling conflict can be challenging (and must be compromised). This does not mean your relationship is doomed. With a proper road map, you and your significant other can successfully co-lead your family!
I created The In-Home Parent Leadership Program® from the overwhelming need for parents to have the necessary tools to present as a united front and bring back peace into the home. The program is designed for Traditional Marriages, as well as for Blended Families. Here are some of the topics covered in the program.
The way your family starts its day plays a huge role in your child's success at school. Morning routines that start on a chaotic/stressful note can negatively affect your child's mood, attitude, alertness, ability to focus, and productivity at school. Having a successful morning routine is also directly linked to the way a parent feels and functions at work.
So what should parents do when you have a child who refuses to get up and get dressed? What do you do when your child gets distracted or distracts others from getting ready? Even worse, what should you do if your child is never ready on time, will not leave the house without a major tantrum, or refuses to go to school?
To resolve your current Morning Time "Mayhem", I'll show you a step-by-step process to create a calm, positive, and smooth morning routine. You will leave this part of the program armed with tools to help everyone in your household be ready to go in the morning without major meltdowns and extra time to spare!
Every parent knows that children who eat a variety of healthy foods feel better and are able to enjoy a better quality of life. A nutritious diet for children should include whole grains, vegetables, lean meat, beans, nuts/low-fat dairy products, and a limited amount of saturated fats and sugars.
So what should parents do when faced with a picky eater? What do you do when your child sits for an hour at the table and doesn't touch his or her food? Even worse, what should you do when your child simply refuses to eat anything at all?
To resolve your current Meal-Time "Madness", I'll meet with you during your family's meal time and show you step-by-step how to create a food environment that will nourish your child and prevent 90% of the power struggle. You will leave this part of the program with the tools needed to help your child to eat healthier, and finish his or her meals within 15 minutes or less!
Every child knows that he or she should behave in school and finish his or her homework. Doing homework is essential to reinforce the lessons covered on a particular day, helps to teach a child to work independently, and gives a parent the opportunity to be involved in a child's learning.
So what should parents do when your child doesn't behave in school, hates doing homework, and puts up a fight when its time to get started? What should you do when your child lies and says, "I don't have any homework," just to avoid doing it? Even worse, what should you do when your child's overall grades in school suffer because of missed homework assignments?
To resolve your current School Challenges & Homework "Hassles", I'll meet with you and your family during your child's home-work time. You will learn step-by step how to create a study environment your child will enjoy. You will finish this part of the program with the right tools to increase your child's organizational skills & motivation to complete his or her homework without "forgetting" assignments or fighting with you for hours!
Proper and regular bathing helps your child stay healthy and prevents illnesses/infectious diseases. Also, making sure that a child gets enough sleep ensures healthy mind and body development.
So what should parents do when your child puts off taking a bath until you lose your temper? What should you do when your child refuses to bathe, get ready for bed, stay in bed, or go to sleep? Even more seriously, what should a parent do when these routines extend so late into the night that the whole family can't function the next morning?
To help you resolve your current Bath & Bedtime "Battles", I'll come to your home just before your child's bath/bedtime. You will learn step-by-step how to successfully transition your child from bath time to bedtime with little to no resistance. You will complete this part of the program with effective tools to motivate your child to bathe, get ready for bed, go to bed when asked, and actually stay there in 45 minutes or less!
Most parents rank kids' fighting with each other as the parenting issue that most bothers them, and that they feel least able to prevent. Also, parents agree if their children could problem-solve without needing adult intervention, that would be ideal.
So, what should parents do when your children are constantly at each other’s throats? What do you do when you can’t figure out consequences because you can’t tell who started the fight? Even worse, what should you do when your children spend more time bickering and physically fighting than loving one another?
To help you resolve your current Sibling "Spats and Squabbles", I'll show you step-by-step how to create calm, positive, and peaceful interactions among siblings. You will complete this part of the program with effective tools to help promote each child’s individuality and create a safe environment for your entire family.
Involving children in positive family work is important for creating a trusting and healthy family (both now and in the future). When children are offered the opportunity to engage in real work, it shows children they have an important role in family life.
So, what should parents do when your child’s room is such a mess that you can barely walk around inside? What do you do when your child’s response to cleaning up is to either ignore you or throw a fit? Even worse, what should you do when your child refuses to clean up, and you are constantly cleaning up for your child?
To help you resolve your current Clean Up & Chores "Challenges", I'll show you step-by-step several methods to get your child to cooperate with cleaning his/her room, toys, clothes, and other messes. You will complete this part of the program with effective tools to establish (and enjoy) a consistent clean up time where everyone contributes without whining or complaining.